Dating Tips For Men
Dating Tips from Ladies themselves:
“Don’t be a mummy’s boy – don’t let your mother’s opinion make a difference, be independent”
If you’re in your 20’s and still living with your parents, take dating advice from your mother and still have her cook you dinner and do your washing… it’s time to make some changes. Scientifically, I believe the term is called not being a little bitch.
This lack of independence is very unattractive and will lead a girl to think that you can’t support yourself without having someone baby you. Women want to date a man, not a boy. Unless she’s a pedophile of course.
If your circumstances mean that you are living at home for financial reasons, that’s ok. What’s not ok is treating the scenario in the same way a boy in primary school would. Do your own shopping, keep your room clean, and have a solid life outside of what’s just at home.
“We judge you on how you treat others”
Talking down to a waiter at a restaurant may seem minute but it is a very big red flag for women, especially high-value women. How you treat others says you’re judgmental, you have low self-esteem because you have to put others down. All of this communicates you’re a low-value guy, or to put it bluntly, just an asshole.
This sort of behaviour will be seen as a major red flag. Someone who is confident and happy in their life isn’t going to feel the need to talk down to anyone. A humble man will treat everyone as their equal as they’re not always trying to feed an ego.
A little bit of manners goes a long way. Even simple things like smiling at people, talking to them briefly and showing interest in them is going to separate you from a lot of other people. Live a happy and friendly life and others will be drawn to it.
“Don’t take everything personally”
Not everything she does relate to you. Her not texting back straight away, postponing a date or anything else like this doesn’t mean it has anything to do with you. Just like everyone else, they have lives that are going to keep them busy. She may not always have the chance to get back to you or see you. Assuming rejection is a self-esteem issue but it’s something you can work on.
A lot of guys will deal with this in the wrong way by sending follow up text’s, constant calling or even having a subtle dig at her. This comes across as really needy. This is also known as being a little bitch. At the worst, it may cause you to give up on investing in the relationship before it’s really had a chance to flourish.
If you’re super focused on everything that they’re doing, it means you’re not doing enough on your own. Make sure your own life is filled with stuff you love doing because your priorities in life shouldn’t be focused on someone you’re dating.
“Be genuine, I’d rather him be shy and own it than pretend to be someone he’s not”
Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to be 6 foot or taller, built like Channing Tatum and be such an alpha male you have testosterone oozing out of you. While that is all very attractive on a physical level, women are just as, if not more drawn to your personality.
Owning who you are is an incredible sign of confidence and high self-esteem. You can be shy, short, over weight but still be happy with who you are as an individual. Pretending to be someone you’re not is just communicating you don’t like who you are, so why would she like you? Even if this isn’t obvious at first, eventually she’s going to see you for who you really are, and attraction will die very quickly.